1. I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

    Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”
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    #613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

    P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

    (via startrekrenegades)

    "A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do." <- Quite possibly the most important thing to be said about caring for a depressed person.

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  2. jeffreyfreakingcarter:

    i think the stars are trying to set jamie benn up

     
  3. kanentokon:

    if someone is showing off their tattoo and it’s fresh and they’re happy about it do not fucking make fun of it i don’t care how pretentious or typical or pseudo-artsy you think it is if another human being shelled out a large sum of money to have something permanently etched onto their body and they are happy and proud of it do not fucking try to make them feel bad about it especially if it was a really big tattoo. holy shit.

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    nabegewell:

    of course delaware pirate goat simulator
    its all we have here

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  6. look at that body, i work out" - jonathan toews, probably

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  8. 22:02 20th Aug 2014

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    140821 oohsehun: Hello this is EXO’s leader Suho. Because I don’t have a personal sns account, I am posting this on member Sehun’s instagram. First, I am so happy and honored to take part in a good campaign like the ice bucket challenge due to my good friends Kwanghee hyung, Eddy Kim. I hope that through my ice bucket challenge at least one person will become aware about amyotrophic lateral sclerosis. Because I was challenged by two people I will pour the ice bucket twice on my head and donate 200 dollars. Next I challenge EXO’s Sehun, Boa sunbaenim, actor Byun Yo Han. Thank you.
    trans: fy-exo | source: sehun’s instagram
    please take out with credits.
     
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    kirschtein-relatable:

    cedrikaprovencher:

    landorus:

    i feel like ‘restaurant’ shouldnt be spelled like that

    les anglophones volent des mots à d’autres langues puis chialent parce qu’ils ne sont pas orthographiés comme ils le voudraient

    IM GONNA REBLOG THIS POST UNTIL I DIE IM CRYING 

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